Rude attitudes of Lao people?

Date: Aug 10, 2008

Rude attitudes of Lao people?

Date: Aug 10, 2008

It is a habitual attitude of Lao officials or Lao employees to ask such questions. They are very rude to ask questions like that even they don't know you before.

Date: Aug 10, 2008

No educations! or
Education does not help people to change the habit. Yes i was aslo asked these kind of questions as well , it seems that money is the most important of all.

in the european countries, you are so unpolite if you ask somone who just meet like this!

Date: Aug 10, 2008

you have to get in their shoes, i think you will never, coz you were born and rise in the west.
east and west are different and will never get closer to each other on this issue.

my2cent

Date: Aug 10, 2008

Hopefully one day Lao people will be more civilized like the rest of the world. It is not polite to ask someone who you just met about personal questions that put the other people in a difficult position. I am sure they don't want to answer
those questions if and when thoe question concern or affect personal matters.

Date: Aug 10, 2008

they can ask all the queistion they want but you don't have to answer it. all I have to say it ban nok.

Date: Aug 10, 2008

Paul wrote:

Hi all member!!

The reason I am posting this question because I have experiences of training and studying abroad many times. Once I was on a plane backing to Laos by Lao airline from Bankok to Vietiene. There were some Lao officiales, quite high ranked officials. They might come from different countries but they met by coincidence on the same plane. First they were greeting, asking name and the reason they went abroad. The answers were training, attending condernce. Then the next question, you can imagine what question will be, is "How much money do you get from the training, attending conference? (personal question). In my point of view this is very rude to ask such a personal question to a person that we have just met. Moreover, as the high ranked officials, it is better to ask about the contents of training and attending conference. How useful the training and attending conference are to our respected country.

In addition, to our people who knows us, they may be friends, colleagues... When we go back to Laos, they ask semilar questons "How much money can you save"? but not "How is your study? or how is your health?". This seems to be natural of Lao people, I think. Then next question comes "Oh Vigo or Tiger?", "Land and a new house lae nor". I think some of us also experience this kind of quesitions.

Then I have question "What do you think about this kind of nature of Lao people?" and Do you think it is rude to ask someone by those questions? If so, "How can we change the attitudes of Lao people towards asking these questions?"

I am waiting all of you to share and to get your point of views.

Sincerely,

Paul
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Please allow me to apologize on behalf of my Laotian people either at home or abroad. We lack so much education and inter-reaction with civilized Westerners. I know you felt uncomfortable the way you were asked, but it was not intended that way. I would look at it as an inappropriate question rather than rude. I hope you had some fun despite that incident and don’t be discourage by it. Please visit Laos again in the future. We do have a beautiful culture and most of our Laotian people are naturally friendly and polite; especially, ladies. There are reasons behind our lack of advancement. Historically, we had been invaded repeatedly by Vietnam, even Burma and completely annexed by Thailand later we were dragged into a long civil war until 1975. Our people got used to finding ways to make a living on their own; there were not much assistance from our government. We had been neglected for so long and 90 percent of us depend on farming, and gardening and we have managed to survive.I am so grateful to learn that many foreign countries try their best to help Laos. And aside from their generous donations, they are also interested in various investments which deem necessary to help Laos get back on her feet. I would also like to express my gratitude to the France because of them, we were given back half of our lands. We got 16 provinces from Thailand and the other 16 had been Thaification for good and now it’s a history. I just can’t imagine without France, we may not be who we are today.

Date: Aug 10, 2008

Anonymous wrote:

Please allow me to apologize on behalf of my Laotian people either at home or abroad. We lack so much education and inter-reaction with civilized Westerners. I know you felt uncomfortable the way you were asked, but it was not intended that way. I would look at it as an inappropriate question rather than rude. I hope you had some fun despite that incident and don’t be discourage by it. Please visit Laos again in the future. We do have a beautiful culture and most of our Laotian people are naturally friendly and polite; especially, ladies. There are reasons behind our lack of advancement. Historically, we had been invaded repeatedly by Vietnam, even Burma and completely annexed by Thailand later we were dragged into a long civil war until 1975. Our people got used to finding ways to make a living on their own; there were not much assistance from our government. We had been neglected for so long and 90 percent of us depend on farming, and gardening and we have managed to survive.I am so grateful to learn that many foreign countries try their best to help Laos. And aside from their generous donations, they are also interested in various investments which deem necessary to help Laos get back on her feet. I would also like to express my gratitude to the France because of them, we were given back half of our lands. We got 16 provinces from Thailand and the other 16 had been Thaification for good and now it’s a history. I just can’t imagine without France, we may not be who we are today. Oh, by the way I am BruceLaoMan.

Best Regards
BruceLaoMan

Date: Aug 11, 2008

No! They have no right to ask all the quetions about you or your personal matters e.g. they have no right to ask what is your education level? Who are your parents? What kind of job you have and how much salary you get? Who is your wife or husband? How much money you have in your bank's account?

Date: Aug 11, 2008

Personally, I don't think that the kind of question is the rude attitude when it comes to those people who want to show off or are arrogant.

Often Lao Nork people come to Laos and like to show off, telling their relatives or friend who have never been abroad that they (Lao nork) are rich while living in USA, France or elsewhere abraod.

In fact, from what I know from my relatives living in USA, even the money for the air ticket to visit Laos some of Lao Nork get loan from banks. Ironically, while visiting Laos, the Lao Nork talk very high, spending their money with no limits.

That's why Lao people are curious to know how much they earn money. My relatives told me that some are real rich, but some are fake.

Normally, the real rich people living abroad when they visit Laos, they don't like to show off, only the fake ones would do, who often are asked by that kind of questions.

Lao people would never ask foreigners or good people with such questions, as they behave properly.

SeeHarHed · Guru

yea... that's pretty rude question to be asking someone you just met..... i would just smile and answer... ga bor dai lai dork ai.... mee tair dai sue ka nom ma torn larn larn.. hahahhahah

Date: Aug 11, 2008

Some if not most Lao Nok people work hard and save money before they take the trip to Laos or to other countries. Most of them have home mortgages or loans and other debts such as car loans and personal expenses which are neccessary. They don't show off and they don't want to talk about their expenses. Unlike the Lao Nai who like to boast and show off their fake wealths to other people such as to young girls and foreigners.